Bring Joy To Your Life

Do you have enough joy in your life? Are you making the most of each day? You might feel that it is hard to have joy when you have to work every day, but couldn't that bring you joy as well?

Life is way too short to live it being unhappy, and that is in every area of your life. If you find yourself dreading going home at the end of the day because your "love" relationship causes more stress and anxiety then it does peace and tranquility, then maybe it is time to re-evaluate your relationship. If you dread getting out of bed every day because you do not like your job, then it is time to re-evaluate your job choice. We are meant to be happy human beings. That starts by making choices that create joy and love and peace, not stress, anxiety and worry. So ask yourself, "Am I truly happy with my life? Is there some area that needs to change so I can find more joy and peace?" Sit in silence with the question and see what answers come to you, and they will come. If the answer is no, you are not happy, then it is time to make some changes. Then ask yourself, "In what area of my life do I need to make these changes? Is it in my personal life, my professional life, or both? What can I do to fix these areas?"

Now that you have some clarity, start with one area at a time. Say you want to start with your job. Since we spend most of our day at a job, it should be something that brings us joy. It should be something that makes us smile and feel good about. It it doesn't, then it is time to find something else. If you feel unappreciated at work, or under-valued, if you feel you are not using your skills and talents to the best of your ability, then it is time to move on. I ran into this very thing yesterday. A man wants to stay in a job that he does not like, for 13 more years, just to gain a pension. He is making good money and he wants to be completely debt free by the time his kids are grown. So, what does this say? It says that the next 13 years will be miserable for him and his family. Unless he makes up his mind that he will be happy in a job he dislikes, with people he dislikes, no matter what, he will be fighting an up hill battle.

Wouldn't it be much easier to let go of the money issue and instead ask yourself what it is you love to do and what is it that makes you happy? Spend some time and ask these questions. Then ask how you can use your talents and skills to have a job you love and that makes you happy. This may take a while to figure out the answers but they are somewhere inside of you for sure. Perhaps they are right on the surface but you think you cannot do what you love because that would be silly. It is time to start feeling your way into life instead of thinking so much. Perhaps it is time to start your own business. Perhaps it is time to start a business from home doing what you love. There are many ways to develop a plan that suits you and brings you joy.

Perhaps your love life is bringing you down. Perhaps you have done everything you can and you are still not happy. Maybe you blame your partner for all the things that are wrong, but you are both 100% responsible for your role in the relationship. Happiness is the job of each of us, individually. We are responsible for our own happiness. It is not our job to make others happy, nor is it their job to make us happy. We are here to make ourselves happy. If your relationship is not happy, then it is time to look at what brought you together to start with. Why did you fall in love? If you alone seem to make an effort to fix the relationship, and your partner does not put in the effort to make it better, then it is time to plan an exit. If you are both working on fixing the relationship, but it still does not seem to get better, it is time to make a change. We all change in life, continually, and relationships are no different. As two individuals, we both change and perhaps not in a good way. Our paths can be completely differe

nt and no longer conducive to happiness. Take a look at your relationship and ask the questions you need to ask. Sit with the answers while they come to you. Write them down so you can give them more thought.

In my experience, I waited way too long in my last relationship to get out, and it cost me almost losing myself before I realized I needed to leave to get myself back on track. Though this decision was scary to me, it was a much better choice then staying and being unhappy one minute longer. Staying so long also cost my son his identity. He spent so much time being afraid of his step family that he forgot who he was. The cost to staying in a bad relaltionship is your happiness, and that is something you cannot afford to lose. So take a stand in your life, ask and answer the tough questions, take baby steps every day to make position changes, and watch what happens. When I asked for a divorce, I had no idea how I was going to get out on my own and make it all work. But the answers just magically appeared and resolved themselves easily and effortlessly! Also, once I made the decision to leave a marriage of convenience only, I quickly found my soulmate love! Good things cannot come if you are unhappy and not honoring your truth! When you start to be happy no matter what, and make positive changes, the world conspires on your behalf to bring you what you want. Start today, your happy life is waiting!